Do you know how to get over being dumped? Here are seven things you can do when your ex has just called it quits.
1.) Spend some time mourning the relationship. If the relationship was important to you, you won’t just be able to “walk away” casually. In a way, it is a kind of death. One thing you can do is to write a long letter to your ex about the relationship. But don’t mail it to him or her. Burn it over a candle. This is a symbolic way to bring closure to the relationship.
2.) Exchange all of your “things.” Another symbolic (and practical) thing you can do is exchange all of the things you have of the others. This provides both a physical and emotional cleansing. You don’t want to have things around that remind you of your ex. But, you also don’t want to have the exchange lingering over your head.
3.) Go to the gym. Getting back into shape has multiple benefits for you. First of all, if you are depressed, working out gets your endorphins working which will lift your mood. Secondly, the act of working out brings you back into contact with other people. Finally, as you start to look better, you will feel more attractive which can help when you are ready to move on.
4.) Another step in how to get over being dumped is to get reacquainted with old friends. Sometimes, when you are in a relationship, your world starts to revolve around your girlfriend or boyfriend. Old friends fall by the wayside because you don’t have the time to nurture your friendships. This is a good time to reconnect with the people you love platonically.
5.) Start a new hobby. If you were with someone for a long time, there were probably interests that you had that got suppressed because your ex wasn’t interested. Sometimes this meant that you dropped an old interest. Other times, you developed a curiosity about something new. In either case, pursue this interest or hobby.
6.) Get involved in something larger than yourself. One of the things about mourning a relationship is that it is easy to get self absorbed. But, when you throw yourself into an activity that is larger than yourself, you break that mold. Think about the volunteer activities you can get involved with. Find one that you care a lot about. If you don’t have any ideas right away, most communities have a list of voluntary activities on a website.
7.) Start to date again. If a cute guy asks you out, go – even if you are not all that interested in him. If a cute girl starts to flirt – ask her out. This doesn’t have to be the greatest relationship of your life. But, just having a date or two gets you back into the game. The sooner you are able to start casual dating again, the sooner you will be able to heal.
Practicing these seven steps will help you when you are trying to figure out how to get over being dumped.