Many guys find that they still love their girlfriends but are no longer in love with them. They don’t want to hurt her, but they don’t want to be with her either. Does this describe you? Here’s how to break up with your girlfriend.
First of all, you should start by preparing her a couple of weeks ahead of time. Boost her ego by telling her that she’s lucky that she’s so pretty because lots of guys would fall for her. Also, pose relationship questions that will make her think about where you two are heading. Say, “can you see us together for the long haul.” If she says yes, gently say that you can’t. Introducing these types of questions and statements into the conversation ahead of time will mentally prepare her for the break up.
But at some point, you will have to cross the line and actually tell her that you don’t want to see her any longer. This is the hard part of how to break up with your girlfriend.
The most important part is choosing the location. Don’t do it when one of you is driving because that could lead to a dangerous situation.
Is your girlfriend likely to make a scene when you break up? Is she more likely or less likely to make a scene if other people are around? Take these factors into consideration when choosing the location.
For instance, if she’s likely to cry then ask her to meet you at a busy restaurant. She’s less likely to burst into tears in front of lots of people.
But, if she’s the type to throw a glass of wine at you, you probably don’t want to be embarrassed in front of a lot of people. Maybe you should do it in private.
Your house or hers, that is the question. If you do it at her house, you can leave immediately after the break up rather than spending lots of time analyzing what went wrong. However, she may associate things in the house with the break up and since she has to live there, it may make her sad to have broken up at home.
The next question in how to break up with your girlfriend is what to say. While they are tired lines “it’s not you, it’s me” is really somewhat comforting. If you are leaving her for another lady, let her know – don’t make her find out for someone else. If you want to remain friends, suggest a cooling off period where you don’t contact each other for a month so that when you do talk, the emotions have blown over.
Finally, you have to be committed to the break up ahead of time, or else you’ll look like a fool. If you are going to let her talk you back into dating, you might as well have not broken up.
You should know that unless the two of you have been drifting apart for some time, the likelihood is that you will break her heart when you break it off. You don’t want to hurt her. But, ultimately, a relationship has to be a two way street. If you are not in love with her any longer, you owe it to her to let her find someone who can fall in love with her.
And, that is how to break up with your girlfriend.