When it comes to divorces and separations, I can identify 5 major causes.
The first one is this — MISCONCEPTIONS.
They say that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. True enough, right? There are certain things that men do that we find hard to understand.
That’s why some women, exasperated by their men, just throw up their hands in surrender and yell, “I give up!”
Friends, you can’t say “I give up” and expect the relationship to go on smoothly.
When you stop trying to understand how a man’s mind works, you open the relationship up to problems, arguments, misunderstandings, and — you guessed it — misconceptions.
Here’s a common misconception — that when he’s being quiet, then something must be terribly wrong.
It’s easy to think this because when WE go quiet, it’s often because he did something we didn’t like. (I’m talking about the “silent treatment,” which works unfairly well by the way!)
But this is a BIG misconception. While we go quiet to show our disapproval with something he did, HE goes quiet for totally different reasons.
He could be preoccupied with work. He could be thinking of new ways to pay the bills. He could be thinking about the future, maybe with you!
Whatever it is, he’s NOT mad at you — so don’t get defensive and go silent on him too! Friends, you can’t “figure him out” after a few months or years. You’re going to keep “figuring him out” for decades — or for as long as you want your relationship to last!